This summer vacation, we did not put the children in any extra classes. It was also out of laziness and a bit due to the fact that both my kids have varied interests and I did not want to push one into a class due to the interest of the other.
So, this vacation, we learnt how to idle around. There were many days where I saw especially the little one struggling with what to do with his time, but I did not budge in. It did pain me a bit many a times, a part of me wanted to suggest something to do, ye kar lo, wo kar lo, drawing kar lo, etc.etc.
But I did not open my mouth.
Many a times he would come and do a chipko movement to me for a few minutes. But I let him without any words. And after a few minutes, he went away.
We though invested a lot of time together, which we anyways do, bedtime stories, walking around, biking, idling around with mum and dad, board games with dadu-dadi, participating in a bit of household works, etc. But nothing to structure their time.
The other thing I enjoyed was their negotiations with each other. mostly about toys. Whatever one would pick, the other would want it only then. and then the fights and the peace agreement. In retrospect I can say it was fun, if I keep aside my standing hair and frustration over the frequent fights.
And who can talk about the Art of lying on top of papa with legs intertwined and just idling around, doing nothing!
They also made a lot of ‘khayali pulao‘ about what they wish to play with, and I must say it was mercurial in nature, everyday they will imagine a new fantasy item to play with. And the parents just had to nod their heads in approval of their choice, and the validation was enough.
And the latest from today:
Anand: Mummy, aap cockroach ko kyon balcony se bahar fenkte ho?
Mum: Aage se nahi fenku kya anand?
A: Nahi, kyunki usne kisi kaa ghar andar se dekha hi nahi, to wo humara ghar dekhne aata hai, dekhne do use. mat fenko bahar.
A: Mummy, Alexa aunty se poocho, kya chor asli mein hota hai? Aur haan, kya aunty ko koi car shop pata hai?
Alexa: I don’t know about that one!
A: mummy Alexa aunty kehti hain ki unhein bahut saari cheezein pata hain, lekin jab kuch poocho to kehti hain, I don’t know.
And yes, we also learnt about the negative overwhelming impact of toyshops on kids. Mostly such shops made them anxious, restless and too desirous of wanting things. While before the shop they were absolutely fine. And the aftereffect remained for some days. Both of us pledged not to overwhelm the kids with stuff. Keep it simple, saves money and saves anxiety.